Sexbolt Saturday | Destination: Fantasy Island, Baby

by Liberty on March 15th, 2008

Do you spend a lot of time on Fantasy Island when it comes to sex? Are you constantly dreaming up ways for you and your current partner (or someone else for that matter) to enjoy a romp and reach sexual heights previously unknown?

If your answer is yes, you are so not alone. And what’s more: having sexual fantasies can be healthy and beneficial to relationships.

Of course, this is all relative. Sure, acting out the fantasy your spouse has been ruminating on can strengthen your bond to one another. On the other hand, if constantly having mind-sex with an ex results in your shouting said ex’s name during the middle of lovemaking with your current partner, then, well….

If you do fantasize, maybe you fit into one of these “roles” as quoted in this new Fox News article.

“Male sexual fantasies are more likely to focus on specific sexual acts and sexual organs, and involve more visual content.

The male will think more about his fantasized partner’s responses and physical appearance. Seeing himself as dominant, he views others as the object of his desire. Overall, his fantasies are more frequent, visual, specifically sexual, promiscuous and active.

Women’s sexual fantasies, on the other hand, are more likely to involve familiar partners and to include more description. Their story lines tend to build slowly to explicit activity. These fantasies involve more of a context, setting and feelings associated with the encounter.

With her, fantasies usually are more affectionate and passionate, and she focuses more on her imagined partner’s personal or emotional characteristics. Often the object of desire, her fantasies may involve seeing herself as submissive in a “play with me” kind of way.”

Sound like you? Funny how guys and gals even fantasize differently.

Do you see any harm in fantasizing? Do you think it can be helpful to a relationship? Is fantasizing about someone other than your partner akin to cheating?

P.S. Check out this totally candid article about a guy who thought he had his fantasy all figured out….