Guys and Sex: 5 Things You’ve Probably Got Wrong
Psychology Today is laying to rest some long standing stereotypes about males and their special purpose. So here’s a quick summary of what’s you think is going on with your sex-stuff, and what actually is:
- The, “Men think about sex every seven seconds” line, that is oft quoted and not oft sourced, is probably bupkis. The Kinsey Report (Sexual Behavior in the Human Male) says that 54 percent of men think about sex every day or several times a day, 43 percent a few times a week or a few times a month, and 4 percent less than once a month. So most guys think about sex a lot, but the half-crazed sex-addict depicted by someone who can’t go into the double digits of our smallest common unit of time measurement without thinking about doing the nasty is just wrong.
- The stereotype of an interested man and a disinterested women maybe more than just a cultural cliché. Most women are hardwired to have their sex drive do a cliff-face dive as soon as they enter a secure relationship. A German study stated that four years into a steady relationship, the women who wanted regular sex was less than half. This gets down to about 20% after 20 years. men, on the other hand, never experience this drop-off, no matter how long they are in the relationship.
- Size mattering: step away from the porn, fellas. The Journal of Urology puts the average penis size at 5.08 inches, and the International Journal of Impotence Research put it at 5.35 inches.
- It’s pretty hard to get HIV/AIDS from a woman, if you’re a guy, according to a study in the Journal of the American Medical Association. A healthy man who has unprotected sex with a non drug-using woman has a one in 5 million chance of getting HIV. With condoms, the odds drop to one in 50 million. For perspective, the odds that an HIV-positive man will transmit the virus to a woman through sex are an order of magnitude greater at less than one in 1,000.
- Once again, porn is not canon. Most sexual sessions last between 3 and ten minutes. This fact is completely unrelated to number two on this list.
source: Psychology Today
16 opinions for Guys and Sex: 5 Things You’ve Probably Got Wrong
stobrawa
Jun 14, 2007 at 12:21 pm
#4 is confusing. You state the contrast between a guy getting HIV from a woman and a woman getting it from a guy, but if you pay attention to the words used, it says it’s “A healthy man … with a non drug-using woman” is unlikely. It DOES NOT say an HIV POSITIVE woman. But then the “For perspective” comment, which I think is the most misleading, is that they use a guy in that example who actually HAS HIV.
To me this means that #4 is completely useless as a compare and contrast statement.
Doug Rosbury
Jul 13, 2007 at 10:30 am
when it comes to sex, it also comes to tolerance and
thoughtfulness and common sense. men and women
have a lot to teach one another about appropriateness.
The practice of self mastery goes a long way toward
the creation of a satisfying relationship. anticipation should be held in check until the right moment occurs. To act on impulse just because he has the power to overwhelm her, is not a good or thoughtful thing for a
man to do. Yes it may be exciting to her, however,
we ought to have evolved beyond pure impulse into
an attitude of further mental development and the
appropriation of understanding and that most lacking of
qualities known as wisdom. a man and a women have
the golden opportunity to experience a transcendence
of the ordinary if they would only call on wisdom to guide them. we are no longer living in caves where
survival is a necessary objective. We have the liesure
with which to realize more lofty and psychologically
satisfying experiences. Self restraint is the key to open that door.—–Doug Rosbury
Oliver
Jul 13, 2007 at 11:36 am
Wow, Doug, I sure am glad I’m not your woman. Go start a cult, dude.
Anyway, is #3 supposed to measure an erect penis? And did the study include all races? Seems a liiiiitle low… I think such studies should be conducted by big guys. You figure why.
Jake
Jul 13, 2007 at 3:56 pm
Oliver, I’m pretty sure that’s right. Wikipedia lists that as well. I don’t know about you, but I haven’t been going around measuring enough dongs to get a statistically significant answer. Throw down your big penis ego, stop being a frightened little boy.
Claudia
Jul 13, 2007 at 7:10 pm
Dear Doug,
life is short……..
Pavel
Jul 15, 2007 at 2:24 pm
Doug, life Is short - just open that door and just do it.
jeeez
Shawn
Jul 15, 2007 at 3:39 pm
“Life is short”….
so have sex whenever you get a chance? I think more people need to watch the movie Idiocracy…
D00D
Jul 15, 2007 at 11:21 pm
hahaha @ Idiocracy
A. N. Other
Jose
Jul 16, 2007 at 12:27 am
Most sexual sessions only last 3 to 10 minutes? What kind of sex are these people having?
Ben Dover
Jul 16, 2007 at 9:56 pm
Sexual sessions lasting 3 to 10 minutes!?
Slow pokes. (pun intended)
Raghibsuleman
Jul 17, 2007 at 12:42 am
i don’t belive ………………
“Sexual sessions lasting 3 to 10 minutes”
i think lasting 30 t0 60 minutes… -:)
Heather
Jul 17, 2007 at 10:39 am
I wouldn’t doubt that sex lasts 3 - 10 minutes on average… unless the guy is intoxicated, then it takes 15 minutes alone to try and get it up, then another 2 hours to try and get it back down again.
PS Doug, prick someone already.
pyre builder
Jul 20, 2007 at 4:21 pm
hmmm… does it really matter? the kind of people that look for these statistics to use against men, just want to have a reason to hate us, and proving them wrong just means they need to find more reasons. as far as i care, the truth (length of “sessions”, length of “other things”) probably hurts a lot of people, but if we let them find it on their own, then at least they know they were smart enough to try to find it. (and besides, if you have a smaller dong then someone else, unless you are boning that someone else, it really doesn’t matter. just means that your partner might resort to toys faster, and thats inevitable, referring in a roundabout way to #2.) oh, and oliver? i’m sure it was the happiest day of your life when you read those numbers, so why would you want to be average?
Tammii
Aug 6, 2007 at 8:44 am
What the hell is average ?? To each his own I say.
Lol, I’ve had 3 husbands, and there is no comparison in anything what-so-ever.
I love all the feedback though. Mmm have to disagree with the 5.3 bit ……. or maybe I have just been lucky ……. Women lose their sex drive after having children, they don’t have time to think of it.
My children are all adults now, I am now enjoying what I pushed aside when I was young. At this point in time I am a lucky lady
Oliver
Sep 3, 2007 at 7:02 pm
Heya Jake,
- (Nearly) disregarding your generic suggestion that I might be a homosexual for disagreeing with you - I’m so sorry for being a frightened little boy, but the number just doesn’t seem right to me, whether your own ego finds a way to tolerate that or not.
Now I’m sure we’ve booth seen too many different statistics on this particular issue to simply play the ‘big/small penis ego’-card and be done with it. The fact that *this* particular statistic results in this way does not close the case permanently I’m afraid. If it did, this would be the last ”big official-like” number you’d ever see on this matter. And it wont be. Trust me.
Contrary to what you seem to have absorbed from reading my comment, I wasn’t saying: ”I’ve got a huge prick, and you nerds don’t, ha-ha”. I was actually trying to hint at: ”If I were a clever scientist (and I probably am), I’d find some way of lowering these numbers just that tiny tad, simply because making me and my fellow dudes feel a bit bigger is the more important thing”.
Do you think that differs from having a big penis ego, Jake?
Heya Pyre,
You just got my point, fella :) Go tell Jake about it.
Raghibsuleman
Mar 31, 2008 at 11:35 pm
“Most sexual sessions last between 3 and ten minutes’
I am allready satisfied…”
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